Keeping a small circle

                                           

                                                     

One thing that I found interesting to observe in the past during my time in school was that for some reason throughout our youth, we thought that being a part of a big group or 'click' was the ideal position to be in when it came to our social circumstances. Having this big group of friends that you tell everything to, do everything with, influence/get influenced by, and ultimately bring into your life in all aspects...yikes. Once I realised how important energy is, my whole outlook on who I spend my time with shifted drastically.

A lot of successful people always go on about the importance of keeping a small circle and how those who we spend our time with impact our realities. I completely get it. Due to school being centred around trend setting and trend following, it’s so easy to latch onto the glorification of being part of a group. It looks cool in school and subconsciously, we take that idea into our adult lives, constantly feeling the need to fill a void and have an abundance of people that we spend our time and energy with.

I think the reason why people struggle to take to this saying of keeping a small circle is because we automatically think that it means not having friends or only speaking to 2-3 people...No. The idea behind keeping a small circle is simply rooted in having a set number of people that you trust and love. This is your circle. The people  we can share anything with, trust to use our energy for good intention, and those who have complete access to us. Having such a dynamic with everyone doesn’t really align with growth.

Don’t get me wrong. In many ways, I see how having such an outlook on life can look a bit snobbish and obnoxious, but at the end of the day, our energy is one of the most important aspects of our lives. We use it to do literally everything. Having everyone and anyone being in a position where they have access to it can affect us in many ways. We all know the notion behind taking kindness for weakness. I see it happen to many people so often, including myself.

Having a small circle is a beautiful way to remain grounded within ourselves and those around us because it allows us to share our energy in a pure way, with people that have our best interests at heart. That doesn’t mean that we can’t have friends. Humans are social beings. We thrive off connection and community, but not everyone has to be invested in your life. Via boundaries, we can in every way determine who influences us as well as contributes to our growth.

People will always come in and out of our lives, and that’s okay. We learn and grow from, and with them. That is all part of life, but there are those people that we deeply connect with. The ones that have been there for multiple cycles. The ones who put forward nothing but good intentions. These are the people we should be aligning ourselves with.

I often observe how I deal with people that have entered my life throughout my youth, and for the longest of time, I struggled to let go of relationships that didn’t serve me anymore. That attachment resulted in me keeping multiple people around me that didn’t have the best intentions. I’ve had to reprogram my mind to embrace very few people that I trust and love. I don’t beat myself up for having these boundaries. It makes no sense to. We have to in order to grow.

Prioritising our lives and who we give our energy to doesn’t make us bad people. All it means is we value ourselves and our peace. That’s all. It really isn’t deep.